Girls Night: What Do University Students Think About Wedding?
Hey beautiful people! Let me formally introduce myself - I am Loren, an upcoming third year university student (some of my friends like to call me “sol” too). I am the current Customer Experience Marketing Coordinator of Lis Simon. In this week’s blog, I will be talking about the wonders and the perspective of university students about wedding and engagement and all that jazz.
Growing up, I’ve always fantasized the idea of getting married. Why? I grew up facing the reality I didn’t want nor expected: I grew up in a broken family, and of course I wouldn’t want my children to experience what I did. Having a partner that would support me in every step of the way is my number one desire.
To be honest, I’ve always been asked if I’m just excited with the idea of getting married or the actual sacrament of marriage. I did think about it, but if I am to describe my view, I would say that “It is my biggest desire to be in a loving commitment relationship – to have a partner who is willing to stay by my side through my lows and highs, a person who will choose to stay even in my worst, a person who’s not going to give up on me, a person who will help me grow. Most importantly, a person who’ll adore me for who I am and will love me unconditionally”.
Below are the questions that I asked my lovely ladies – my close friends, who happened to be a little tipsy when I asked these questions:
Would you rather have a traditional wedding or elopement?
Claire: Beach wedding – private. I’ll even get married on an ice rink.
Nathalie: I don’t have an answer yet.
Ivy: I was thinking more traditional wedding but sometimes I feel like I want an elopement too just for the two of us - but then also like a traditional one after.
Rudy: I think I would want a wedding, but a really simple one with less than 50 guests, preferably. Just family and friends. That’s pretty much it, I think.
Kath: I would want to have a traditional wedding, maybe like a beach wedding. Just like what Rudy said, maybe less than 50 people, just family and friends.
Gab: I think I would want a traditional wedding, but like a really small one, maybe just like a civil court wedding – with just me and my partner and some of my friends and a get together after that.
Would there be any dress restrictions/codes?
Claire: Nothing, that’s boring – it’s pretty boring if you have restrictions, just wear whatever you want. Wear shorts If I care.
Nathalie: No answer girl.
Ivy: I don’t think I’ll be having any restrictions. They’re just there to celebrate the wedding.
Rudy: I don’t think I would have any restrictions, just that maybe try to wear a dress if you can but if not feel free to wear whatever
Kath: No restrictions.
Gab: No restrictions at all, you can wear whatever you want.
If you happen to marry someone whose culture is different from yours, would you have two separate ceremonies?
Claire: Yeah, I’ll have two separate weddings
Nathalie: Yes, I agree with Claire.
Ivy: Yes.
Rudy: Definitely, especially if it’s for their religion or anything about their tradition.
Kath: Yes separate.
Gab: Oh yes, two separate ceremonies in respect for our religion and tradition.
How important is a wedding ceremony to you? Would you want it to be private and intimate or a grand celebration?
Claire: I’ll have an intimate ceremony, but we can party after.
Nathalie: Private and intimate
Ivy: Kind of torn. Like in between a private one. But then also like a big celebration after, but I don’t know that many people so it would be small anyway.
Rudy: It is a celebration of love, but I would rather have a private ceremony than a big wedding.
Kath: For me, maybe in the middle. Cause I want my family and friends to be there – I have a big family and friends back home. But yes, maybe in the middle, not too grand but also not too private.
Gab: I would prefer to have a private ceremony, friends, family and me and my partner. Having a big celebration for me is stressful.
Charlie: Private.
What are you looking forward to on your wedding day?
This question got us all sappy and I’m telling you our constant “awes” can make us a choir.Kath: I’m looking forward for the vows, and the kiss.
Claire and Nathalie: Walking down the aisle.
Ivy: I think for me is the reassurance after, like that feeling of knowing you have them forever.
Gab: After the kiss.
Rudy: I’m looking forward to the actual marriage, like living together.
Charlie: I don’t know, I didn’t think this far yet.
Regarding on the societal and peer pressure, how does it feel seeing other people in their 20s getting married?
Gab: When I see them, I’m very happy for them to be married at a young age and that they already found a partner and someone to be with for the rest of their lives. But at the same time, I feel like they should enjoy their lives more with each other, without being tied down to marriage. Because its kind of like rushed. Personally, I am happy for them but I don’t want that for myself right away. Taking it slow, enjoying life and knowing what’s ahead for myself instead of rushing into marriage and being with a partner.
Claire: It’s more of a comparison, like your parents would pressure you more to get married. Since all of your friends are getting married and you’re still single - so it’s basically the pressure from your parents.
Rudy: I personally think it’s amazing that some people could find love that young, but I don’t find myself getting married that young. I’ve never been that kind of person who wants to get married in her early 20s or late 20s. So good for them, but personally I would wait until I’m in my 30s. And that’s just depends on your personal preference, if you wanna get married in your 20s I totally respect that.
Ivy: I kind of relate with Gab and Rudy, I feel like I’m too young to be married in this age, especially since I’m trying to find myself still. And I know that I kind of agree with my partner to which age we would get married if we were to get married. And I know it’s a several years down the road – and I don’t feel any self-comparison like “oh I need to get married at this age” or to like rush into getting married right now because I still feel like I can’t feed myself right now so how am I supposed to figure out a marriage right away.
Nathalie: I agree with Ivy. I feel like at your 20s, it’s still a little bit too young. Well it really depends on your personality too. For me, I don’t see myself getting married in my 20s.
Kath: I don’t really mind it and I don’t feel any pressure and we all have our own plans.
If you could make or design your own wedding favours, what would it be?
Claire: I would probably base it on our hobbies and activities. Like I love to read books, I love sports and everything but if my partner has other hobbies – I would just mix them together.
Nathalie: I agree with Claire, just mix our favourites together.
Ivy: I can’t really pinpoint a specific item that I would give as a favour. But I feel like it would be food.
Rudy: I totally agree with that! I think the best idea would be giving out sweets or any type of food. Because I don’t find a lot of people keeping souvenirs in their homes and they just end up throwing it away.
Kath: I don’t really have any ideas but maybe a “thing” that they could keep – but I’m not really sure if they’re gonna keep it. But yes, maybe a “thing”
Gab: I agree with Kath too – an item that they could keep or most probably something that they can hang. Something that is useful and convenient – or something that they could see every day, or something that can be a part of their self-collection.
Charlie: (Chanel, as the girls say)
How would you describe your perfect wedding?
Claire: Chaotic and crazy
Nat: I don’t have an answer yet
Ivy: I think mine would be different from Claire’s. I prefer something more peaceful, breezy more like a beach wedding. Something so sweet and euphoric. I love it.
Rudy: I think as long as my family and friends and my partner is there, that would be my perfect wedding. It doesn’t really matter to me what the weather is or what the theme is – but as long as I’m with my loved ones, that should be a perfect wedding.
Kath: My perfect wedding would be at the beach and it is simple and happy in general…peaceful.
Gab: My perfect wedding would be with my partner and my loved ones and friends and family – whatever theme would work, I don’t really have anything in mind. Maybe if the time comes, me and my partner will coordinate something that would fit us both. What’s important is being with him or her and my family and friends.
Which Lis Simon dress would you choose?
Claire: Houston
Nathalie: Kristina
Ivy: Lyla
Rudy: Joyce
Gab: SS105 bodice and SS110 skirt
Charlie: Luna
Being in my 20s have taught me so much. I’m still learning to find myself. I’m continuously growing and I’m still thinking about life and what I can offer to the world. But one thing’s for sure; I maybe too young in this world to be thinking about wedding and marriage and all that extravaganza, but that little girl inside wouldn’t want the same thing to happen all over again.
Cheers to a wonderful life! Always remember to choose kind ♡
Much Love,
Your Lis Simon Team.
